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High-control systems shape more than individual beliefs. They influence culture, politics, relationships, and the way we come to understand ourselves.
This space exists to gently explore those influences — not only to name what caused harm, but to understand how we live after awareness. To find language for what lingers. To reconnect with self-trust. To practice integration. To nourish a life that feels more inhabitable and more your own.
You don’t need a specific background or identity to be here.
If you’re curious about how power, belief, and belonging shape human lives — and how people find their way back to themselves — you’re welcome.
About Jillian & This Space
Hi, I’m Jillian. I’m really glad you’re here.
This is a space for reflection, integration, and honest exploration. Some people arrive here because of religious trauma or experiences in high-control faith communities. Others arrive because they’ve outgrown old frameworks — relationally, spiritually, politically, or internally — and are learning how to live with more steadiness and self-trust.
My own story includes leaving a high-control evangelical environment that once felt like home and later revealed itself as deeply constraining. That process of unlearning, grieving, and re-orienting shaped not only my life, but the way I now understand healing and growth.
Today, I work as a therapist and coach. Much of my professional background is in religious trauma and recovery from high-control systems. What matters most to me now is supporting the integration that comes after insight — the slow, human work of living with more ease, self-attunement, and integrity once old structures no longer fit.
Flourishing, if you will.
What You’ll Find Here
This space holds writing and audio for people who are learning how to inhabit their lives more fully, including:
🖊️ Personal essays — reflections on identity, grief, meaning, and becoming
𝍔 Psychological and systemic insight — how high-control systems shape nervous systems, relationships, and culture
🌿 Reflections on flourishing — what it means to nourish yourself while living in complex systems, creating healthy community, and reciprocity with self and others
🎧 Audio reflections and prompts — invitations into pause, noticing, and gentle self-contact
✨ Real-time insight — observations that emerge from lived experience and ongoing work in this field
You don’t need to read everything in order.
This is a place to return to — to sit with what resonates and leave what doesn’t.
No matter why you’re here — healing, curiosity, integration, or quiet reflection — I hope you find language that names something familiar, and space that allows you to move at your own pace. Even better if it sparks a “yes, that!” moment.
You’re welcome to be here in whatever way feels right to you.
With warmth,
Jillian
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